Ashlyn Haney, 2025 Psychology Graduate
When Ashlyn Haney first stepped onto the UMHB campus in 2021, she was uncertain about her future, homesick for her home state of Colorado, and just beginning to navigate the realities of college life.
“I had no idea what I wanted to do. I knew I wanted to help people, but beyond that, it was all a blank page,” she recalls.
That sense of uncertainty is echoed in a letter she wrote to her future self at the end of her first semester. Her words revealed a young woman wrestling with big questions, yet grounded in faith and a desire to grow.
“My major is undecided. I’m potentially leaning towards social work, but I have no idea!” she wrote. But after changing majors a few times, the Lord led her at the end of her freshman year to declare her major in psychology, and she walked across the graduation stage this May.
Ashlyn's first year was marked by unexpected challenges, like a frightening car crash with her roommate, but through it all she saw God’s provision and those tests helped strengthen her faith.
“I tend to put a lot of pressure on myself, especially on things I can’t control, and that’s been something I’ve had to learn – to let go and sit back and let God work things out that I can’t,” she said. “I’ve learned to give myself grace as I’m trying to figure out what the rest of my life is going to look like.”
Moving two states away from her family was one of the hardest things for Ashlyn her first semester, but she also remembers the other adjustments she had to learn, like controlling her own schedule, learning time management and adapting to the Texas heat.
“It was horrible at first going to class,” she laughed. “I remember one time looking at the weather forecast in September and it was like 101 degrees that day and thinking, ‘What in the world?’”
Despite being far from home, she found community and strength in her new environment.
“I was really homesick at first,” she admits, “but I also loved the people I met. That made all the difference.”
One of the things she wrote in her letter was to “remember to always be kind and to love others and that you have a place in this world.” Four years later, she feels like with Christ’s help, she has done a pretty good job of following that advice throughout college.
“I always pray every day that I can love others as Christ loves us because I think it’s important to always be kind, and I still try to live by that."
What stands out most to her in reflecting on her letter is how much she’s grown and “come out of her shell.”
“I have grown so much. When I came in as a freshman, I was quiet and shy, but now, I’m more outgoing and I’m definitely more willing to talk to strangers that I’ve never met or get up in front of the class and talk to people,” she said. “I’ve kind of grown into myself and discovered who I am and who I want to be. I’ve also definitely grown more confident, and I think that has come with growing closer to the Lord.”